Geneva (8 months) is such a good baby. I link her peaceful attitude with the fact that she is my first child that I have stayed home with since they were a baby.
With my oldest Darian (13) I went to school when he was around 6 months so he was in daycare during the week. We also lived in a turbulent home with all the drama between my Mom and I. Plus it did not help then I was a young teen Mom trying to grow up myself and raise a child.
With Cullen (9) I was in a strange city after being uprooted due to problems with his Dad. This was the first time I was truly on my own with my children. We had a lot of hard times as I was working since he was 4 months so both of the kids were in daycare. We did not have a car at the time so public transportation was used. It would take hours to get home walking through the cold snow and ice at times.
Then Isaiah (4) I went back to work when he was 8 weeks old. The job that I held swallowed me whole but I could not see it. My career was my life first then came my kids. I found it hard to balance them both.
Things do happen for a reason. It took my company telling me that they did not want me back for me to wake up and realize that my priorities were off track.
Even after my company sided with an employee who had used the 'n' word towards my son, I still found myself wanting to be there to further my career. I did at times feel torn feeling as if I needed to side with my son as staying there at the job was sending the wrong message to my son.
I was lucky that I did have a good case against them as I am a paralegal by trade even though I do not use my degree I still have a lot of the skills embedded into me from school so I kept detailed evidence of what they were and were not doing.
Money was never a driving force in my case against my former employer just a simple appology which I never received. Receiving a settlememt and my walking papers from my former employer was the best thing that could have happened to myself and my kids.
I learned a very important lesson for when I go back to the workforce to never ever put more into your job then your family. This time I have had with my kids has showed me how much I was losing by constantly ripping and running do to work.
I am a much better mother then I was back then as I have more time, less stress and set my children as my priorities.