Friendships when we are young oh how they are fly by night huh? My teen son made friends with this boy who just moved into town. They were really tight,closer then he has been with other friends. I was happy for Darian.
Then it was over before it started See Darian is a 'lover not a fighter' so many of the boys his age are into physicly fighting and getting into other things that they have no business doing at this age.
Darian seems to them as immature but to me he is just right. He is what a young man should be at this age. In today's world kids are growing way too fast just zipping through their childhood. I don't want that for Darian.
He doesn't seem too bothered by the end of this friendship in fact I think I am more upset by it then him. I had to get a hold of myself when I first heard the news because I put myself into it thinking how could this kid do this I drove him home,fed him and took him places with the family. Then I calmed myself down it's not my situation not my friend. Their kids and as kids these things are going to happen friends are going to come and go throughout their lives. I will gladly be the designated 'piece picker upper' being here for my kids when they need someone to vent to. I am more use to them when I am neutral anyhow.
Kids are kids so who knows they may be friends again sooner then later

Yep you heard right his big date that I was all excited about never happened Turns out the girls never showed so my 13 yearold and a few of his friends just went out to eat on their own.
So different with matters of the heart when it comes to males I swear. At his age if that had happened to me I would have been in full drama queen mode
All in all I am not disapointed actually happy that the road to teenage heartbreak didn't have to start this early

My oldest turned 13 six days ago. He once was not interested in girls and would act like he was sick if you even mentioned the thought of him having a girlfriend
Now 6 days from turning 13 he is starting to show interest in them. The teen years march in and take no prisoners huh? They didn't even give me a full week to adjust!
Last night my son asks me for $20. I answered no right away and explained I have Christmas shopping to do. Then I ask him what he needed the money for (this was an odd amount for me he usually asks for 2 or 3 at a time). He tells me he wanted to go to the chinese buffet with some friends after school. I told him it does not take 20 to eat there. He then explains that he was going to pay for a GIRL
There it was that word G.I.R.L. suddenly I gave in we had to drive to the ATM as I did not have the money on me. He told me how his friend T likes this girl and was taking her to the buffet near school tomorrow afternoon and how they were going to introduce darian to this girls friend. A double date oh how cute
So I gave him the whole run down of holding the door for her and getting her number if he liked her. Explaining how a date like this is much healthier then just calling someone your girlfriend because you may or may not like the other person.
Then at night something even stranger happened....he was scrubbing his sneakers,wanted to iron his clothes for the next day and even washed his face without me bitching at him
This is it this is my roller coaster ride into teenager hood. I am all buckled in but have never been on this ride before. They have all ready started the engine and I am on my way no way off now just have to deal with it

Sometimes kids will say the darndest things that make you laugh. Then again sometimes kids will say something that shoots you right through the heart
I was speaking to my 9 yearold last night while we were watching TV in my bed. I told him that I think I may be breaking up with my BF (whose been in his life since he was 3 & the father of my 2 youngest). I wanted to ease him into this as I just don't want to spring it on him. He sounded a little disapointed and said but I like him. I told him this was ok but sometimes a relationship just doesn't work out and we have not been getting along just driving each other nuts.
Then the arrow right to my heart He says I don't want Isaiah and Geneva to be in the same situation as me and Darian growing up with no father. I was proud of him for thinking of his siblings but realized once again how it hurts him that his father is not participating in his life. I try to assure him that I did not think BF would abandon his kids that even if we broke up I am sure he would still be a father to his kids.
I hope this transition will be easy on us all but I know it won't be nothing in life is easy. In the long run I think this is the best decision for us all. This relationship I am in is sucking the life out of me depleting me of resources that I need to be a good Mom. I am chosing to make this move after the holidays when I can better handle the designation of 'Damage Control Supervisor'.

I found the words to this song today. I haven't heard it since I was a little girl myself. It is so touching. Just thought I would share it with all of you as the holiday season is here as we tuck in our own children tonight pray for those kids who are in less then perfect circumstances  

"Dear Mr. Jesus"

 Dear Mr. Jesus, I just had to write to you Something really scared me, when I saw it on the news A story 'bout a little girl beaten black and blue Jesus, thought I'd take this right to you Dear Mr. Jesus, I don't understand Why they took her mom and dad away I know that they don't mean to hit with wild and angry hands Tell them just how big they are I pray Please don't let them hurt your children We need love and shelter from the storm Please don't let them hurt your children Won't you keep us safe and warm Dear Mr. Jesus, they say that she may die Oh I hope the doctors stop the pain I know that you could save her and take her up to the sky So she would never have to hurt again Please don't let them hurt your children... Dear Mr. Jesus, please tell me what to do And please don't tell my daddy But my mommy hits me, too. Please don't let them hurt your children... Words and Music by Richard Klender © 1985 Klenco, Inc. (Klenco Music Group), ASCAP